Today . . . I'm thinking about indecision. Especially in light of the upcoming Presidential election in the U.S.A. Who to vote for . . . Obama or McCain.
Some people are quite clear about whom they are voting for. Other's not.
If you are not sure, or know of someone else who is unsure, you can help yourself or them by knowing about the five stages of indecision:
Helping Someone Move from Indecision to Decision in Five Stages
As soon as you realize someone is having trouble making a decision, acknowledge it. Don't ignore the indecision or bypass it with suggestions. Simply say, "I can see that something is bothering you about the election," or “Is there something or someone you’re not sure about?”
At this point, let the other person speak. Don't ask if you can help. Just acknowledge the indecision and wait for a response.
Those in this stage do not intend to make a decision yet. Pushing for outcome will drive them deeper into indecision.
2. Uncover internal dialogue.
What's behind the indecision? Now is the time to learn what the person is telling himself about the problem. You might ask, “Tell me a little about what you’re thinking right now.”
Again, just let the person speak. This is not the time to offer suggestions, alternatives, or counter arguments. This is the time to take mental notes and empathize.
Individuals in this stage are not even thinking about a solution. They are trying to figure out what's wrong.
3. Communicate the dilemma.
State the dilemma as you understand it. For example, “I see. On one hand, you'd like to vote for Obama because he's fresh and offers change, yet, you like that McCain he's a known entity and been around awhile.”
Once individuals in this stage think you have a solid grasp of their predicament, they will consider making a decision.
4. Make it possible for a decision to be made.
You've already acknowledged that there is a problem. You know what the person’s internal dialogue is and have communicated the dilemma. Now it's time to ask what would make it possible for the person to make a decision. You might ask, "If you could wave your realistic magic wand, what would the best possible outcome be of this election?" or "If you could wave your realistic magic wand, where would you like to see our country a year from now?"
Those in this stage are ready to take action. They are looking for a solution.
5. Deliver the solution.
Now is the time for you to help find the perfect solution to the person’s problem. Offer options. Explore possibilities. Let him know you are in this together.
Individuals in this stage are eager to make a decision and ready to take action.
A lot rests on the Presidential elections this year. If you are feeling indecisive, don't let that be the excuse for not voting. Work through your indecision and vote.
Susan L. Reid
The original Accidental Pren-her™
Award-winning author of Discovering Your Inner Samurai: The Entrepreneurial Woman's Journey to Business Success
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