Today . . . I am thinking about the Law of Attraction and how I can help my clients to effectively use it to create what they want in their life and work.
There's so much confusion surrounding the Law of Attraction and how to use it effectively, isn't there!
The key to using the Law of Attraction is two-fold:
- recognize how much resistance you have toward manifesting what you want, and
- determining which of the three approaches to deliberate creation is best to use, when.
The Three Approaches to Deliberate Creation
First Approach – Hold a vision specifically of what you want.
This approach is perfect if every fiber of your being knows that what you want to manifest is going to happen very soon. That it's right around the corner. So close you can taste it.
This is when you can get specific and detailed about what you want.
People who are in this stage of creation have no resistance, are ready for what they want to manifest, and are in a state of great appreciation about the manifestation. They just know in their knower that it's going to manifest very soon.
Second Approach – Find the essence of what you want and feel into it.
Finding the essence means finding the core of what having this thing that you want means to you. For example: the essence of being in a relationship could be happiness, fulfillment, or companionship. The essence of having money could be freedom or ease.
Feeling into it means dwelling on the essence of what you want and deeply feeling how it would be to manifest it.
This approach to deliberate creation is perfect if you are experiencing just a little bit of resistance around what you want to manifest. It's also a good approach to use if you have a sense that what you want will manifest in the not to distant future.
This approach won't work for you if you have a lot of resistance toward it, or feel as if manifestation is a ways off. You'll know this is the wrong approach for you because you will feel overwhelmed and frustrated with not getting what you want.
Third Approach – Take what you want completely out of the equation and don't focus on it at all.
This approach to deliberate creation is perfect for you if every time you think about what you want to manifest all you can see is that it hasn't manifested yet. When there is no gut-level knowing that it will manifest anytime soon.
People who are in this stage of deliberate creation have high resistance and the balance of their feeling about the manifestation is in the direction of not having it. People who are in this stage of creation are not really ready for manifestation to occur, even though they may want it, very much.
When you have high resistance going on, it means you are quite a ways off from manifesting what you want. You may even be in a state of anger, feeling some fear around it, and desperation. If you are finding yourself in a moderate or higher rate of resistance, than focusing on something specific will only increase that resistance and your feelings of anxiety and doubt.
Therefore the best thing for you to do is to take what you want completely out of the equation. Don't even focus on it. Focus on some other aspect of your life that is going well – Something that has no resistance to it. Once you do, the resistance in other areas of what you want to manifest will lessen and you'll be able to focus on it later, perhaps using the second, or even the first approach to deliberate creation.
How was that? Did that clear things up for you? Leave a comment and let me know.
Susan L. Reid
The original Accidental Pren-her™
Award-winning author of Discovering Your Inner Samurai: The Entrepreneurial Woman's Journey to Business Success
Hi there. Interesting article. If you don't mind, I'd like to make a couple of constructive comments on your recommended approaches that I hope help you with your clients:
1. Hold a vision specifically of what you want
Placing your attention on the detail of what you want is essential to creative attraction, irrespective of how soon you feel it may manifest. In fact, the problem lies in placing a time frame on it, rather than placing attention on the thing you want in the here and now. People who place their attention on this desires sometimes have resistance to them in the form of doubt and anxiety. But even with doubt or anxiety, utilization of willpower to keep your attention on what you want is the key. Some people feel that by having doubts, they will invoke the Law of Reversed Effort (resistance). This is not true. What is true is if they fixate upon the doubts and anxieties, as opposed to letting them bubble up and then letting them go in favor of placing their attention back upon the detail of what they want. This is why I would never suggest to anyone in this.
2. Find the essence of what you want and feel into it
If you have a strong enough desire to obtain a desired object or experience, then the essence of why you want it - the feeling of what it will bring to you - is already within you and already resonating throughout your being. It is the foundational seed of why you have that desire. If it is not there, you will never be able to find it by seeking it or by trying to cultivate it. If it is not there, or if you struggle to find the core of what having this thing means to you, then it will never be a strong enough desire to warrant your attention. There is much about the Law of Attraction that is often confusing, just as you say at the beginning of your article. One of these is the necessity to 'feel' and 'believe' you will attain a certain thing. As an approach it is flawed, and here's why: by attempting to follow this guideline of trying to 'feel' and 'believe', what is really happening is you are placing your attention upon that thing by default, and so the principle of attraction comes back to fixated attention. Recognize that invoking a feeling of what it is like to receive a thing is merely a tool to help you fixate upon that thing.
3. Take what you want completely out of the equation and don't focus on it at all
I understand what you are trying to convey with this statement - that if you can't take your mind off the doubt, then switch to something constructive. But, never take what you want out of the equation for the moment you do, you cease attracting it. If you have to switch to something else in order to take your mind off any fear based thoughts you are having in the now, then by all means do so - but recognize that the problem of the doubt hasn't gone, it is still attached to the desire. By changing a subject, the original subject doesn't change. Doing so won't eradicate the reason for the fear - the basis for the doubt - the foundation for the worry. By putting what you want out of mind, you let fear win, and this in turn strengthens it. When you come to return your attention to your desire it increases the odds that the fear will arise again. Should you then switch away from what you want again? No, because if you do, again you're allowing your fixated attention to give more power to the doubt or fear than you are to the thing you want.
Consider this for a moment. If you are able to switch your mind to something more constructive, then you are also capable of switching your mind back to what you want because what you want is also constructive! Remember, if you truly want something, then it is a powerful attractor. Everyone has fears, but they are nothing unless you give them power. Allow them their moment, then realize you get what you place your fixated attention upon, not what might temporarily jump to your attention. Give it its moment, but give it no fixated power. Giving into the fear by forgetting what you want is giving it power.
Overall, the key to the Law of Attraction is fixated attention upon what you want, receptivity to the signs related to its attainment, and the taking of action upon realization of those signs. This is the only approach necessary. Just as there is only one way in which the Law of Inertia works, there is only one way in which the Law of Attraction works. Just as there is only one principle behind magnetism, so too is there only one principle behind creative attraction.
If we are to place our attention on such ideas as recognizing resistance, or on determining approaches because others aren't working, then we in fact place our attention towards the seeking out of the very fears towards realization that we don't want to fixate upon. There is really no need to worry about doubts and anxieties, they are a normal par for the course. It is merely our fixated attention upon them that invokes the Law of Reversed Effort and brings to us that which we don't want. When we truly get this, then we never fixate upon fear based thoughts, for we are aware of the importance of where our attention is directed. Acknowledge your fears, allow them their moment if you have to, but don't give them more fear based power by worrying about them. Simply let them have their moment, then switch your mind back to what you want. Do this, and you take control of the attraction process with a simple single approach that always works.
Hope this helps.
Posted by: D. James Albert | December 13, 2008 at 04:16 AM
Wow James! Thanks for taking time to leave such a thorough comment for our readers.
Two things you said really spoke to me: "Remember, if you truly want something, then it is a powerful attractor," and "Everyone has fears, but they are nothing unless you give them power."
The first is a great reminder to all of us about how powerful wanting something really is. Especially, when we are not wanting from a place of lack. If we are wanting from a place of calling it into manifestation, then that is, as you said, a very powerful attractor.
The second is about fears. What I heard you saying in this is fears are neither good or bad. They just are. They only become troublesome when we focus our attention on them, thus feeding them into manifestation.
Posted by: Susan L. Reid of Discovering Your Inner Samurai | December 14, 2008 at 11:31 AM
Wow James! Thanks for taking time to leave such a thorough comment for our readers.
Two things you said really spoke to me: "Remember, if you truly want something, then it is a powerful attractor," and "Everyone has fears, but they are nothing unless you give them power."
The first is a great reminder to all of us about how powerful wanting something really is. Especially, when we are not wanting from a place of lack. If we are wanting from a place of calling it into manifestation, then that is, as you said, a very powerful attractor.
The second is about fears. What I heard you saying in this is fears are neither good or bad. They just are. They only become troublesome when we focus our attention on them, thus feeding them into manifestation.
Posted by: Susan L. Reid of Discovering Your Inner Samurai | December 14, 2008 at 11:56 AM